You ever have one of those seasons where everything feels heavy and chaotic?
Work pressure.
Family responsibility.
Financial weight.
Constant decisions.
Things breaking.
Health problems.
etc etc…
And you’re just standing there like someone trying to hold a grocery bag with a ripped handle…
Stuff keeps leaking.
And you’re pretending and hoping it’s all just fine.
Here’s what I’ve seen and learned.
Most people don’t lose control because they’re weak.
They lose control because they’re overloaded.
And being overloaded makes the calm really hard to find.
The truth is
Most people don’t actually lack peace.
They just never protect it.
We let work bleed into home.
News bleed into our minds.
Other people’s problems bleed into our pressure.
We absorb more than we’re designed to carry. (Now more than ever in history!)
Then we wonder why we feel like a shaken soda can all day…
Peace is not an emotion.
It’s more of a decision.
And it’s not found by escaping pressure.
It’s built by controlling your response to it.
Storms don’t steal your calm.
Your reaction to the storm does.
Here are my 5 rules for staying calm in chaos. (Some of these were taught by the USAF)
- Shrink your world for 24 hours
When everything feels out of control, you need to reduce the battlefield.
Stop trying to solve your whole life.
Just solve today.
Who needs your attention today?
What requires action today?
What can wait without destroying the world?
If you try to carry tomorrow’s stress today, you’ll both lose…
- Stop narrating catastrophe in your head
Most pressure gets worse because we keep running mental movies.
What if this goes wrong?
What if that fails?
What if I mess up?
Your brain starts directing a disaster film that never needed funding.
Don’t let your thoughts behave like a bad Hollywood remake…
You don’t need worst-case stories.
You need present moment clarity.
- Physically slow your body down
When your body is rushed, your mind follows.
Slow your breathing.
Drop your shoulders.
Unclench your jaw.
Yes… your jaw.
You’re probably clenching it right now like you’re in a silent argument. Command your face to relax and feel it happen. (Now do other body parts where you feel tense)
Slow body equals slower mind.
Slower mind equals better decisions.
- Return to truth, not emotion
Emotions are terrible leaders.
Great followers.
Horrible captains.
This is where faith matters.
The world tells you to trust your feelings.
Scripture tells to stand on truth.
Truth doesn’t change when the pressure or emotional thermometer does.
And calm comes from something unshaken.
Even if the situation feels uncertain,
God’s peace nd grace isn’t.
- Refuse to leak chaos onto others
A lot of us don’t implode.
We explode sideways.
We snap at our spouse.
Get sharp with our kids.
Become short with our team.
Not because they caused it.
But because they’re close.
Don’t let pressure turn you into someone your family needs to emotionally dodge.
They deserve your leadership.
Not your overflow.
Can I be real with you??
I’ve had weeks where it felt like everything hit at once.
Deadlines. Expectations. People pulling. Family needing. Decisions stacking.
I felt it rising.
And I realized something:
Pressure didn’t make me sharp.
My lack of boundaries did.
Once I limited access, slowed my body, returned to truth, and focused only on what I could control…
The storm didn’t stop.
But I did.
And the moment I did, everything else slowed down too.
Why this matters for leaders and fathers
Your family doesn’t just watch what you say.
They watch how you react under pressure.
Your team doesn’t just follow instruction.
They follow your emotional tone.
Calm and stoic is leadership.
Even when things feel chaotic.
You don’t have to fake peace.
You just have to protect it.
Ok, now for the ACTION!
What to do today…
Don’t try to calm your whole life.
Calm your next moment.
One breath.
One prayer.
One decision.
Pressure doesn’t disappear when life gets easier.
It disappears when you get steadier.
And steadiness is built, not found.
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